Im dating a virgin
And BTW, religious/conservative upbringing does not make one so in bed! This is not to imply that she is not one, just that how it came up may be a hint as to where the relationship is going.As far as "anything to look out for" goes, well, just be careful when you're physical with her; although that depends on how physical she's been in the past. I mean if she met you and 30 seconds later said, "I am a virgin and you're not getting any!Heh heh--just remember, slow and steady wins the race. " suggests to me that probably you should look in other directions for any sort of relationship with this woman. On the other hand, she may be religious (may be good or bad, depending on your personal philosophy).On the other hand if after a sip of wine she looked into your eyes and said softly, "I just love men who identify with reptiles, and oh, by the way, virginity is such a burden." I would say you're looking good. She may just be shy, or conservative, or only a "technical" virgin.We have so much in common that'd be a shame if nothing came of it. (And for people who say "shame on you" for my not wanting to be just friends with her, I figured out long ago that in circumstancs like these, only the woman benefits from such an arrangement.What guy wants to hang out with a woman he is attracted to who isn't interested in him?I have never had a girlfriend, or a relationship that has gone beyond two dates (usually my decision or something weird happens). I have never kissed a woman, or really put myself in a situation where I could kiss someone.I never went to a school dance or prom (even though my parents were not happy about it). I am too nice, and not aggressive in making things happen. This may stem from the fact that I even have trouble hugging people, and saying “I love you” to family members.
Personally it would be a turn off for me, not because of the actual fact he's a virgin, but for a number of other reasons: 1- it would indicate some lack of confidence of their behalf 2- I'm not very confident in the bedroom myself so I like a man who takes charge 3- I found sex quite awkward and clunky for the first few times and it was awful, I couldn't then go back to that helping someone else lose their virginity. I think maybe don't lead with it, drop it in to conversation on the 3rd or 4th date.
You say you can’t build up enough energy to date, but the message that is really communicated is that you feel too much like a “dork” to date.